Disturbing Events and Other Tragedies

Disturbing events happen and when they do our children look to the adults in their life for answers.

Disturbing events rarely have answers.

The good news is your child doesn’t need you to be an expert. Your child needs to be present and aware.

Be aware that the constant information from the media and others in your child’s life might be increasing anxiety.

Be aware that some aspects of busy family life might need to be set aside to spend time talking and comforting.

Be present to show empathy and help your child to manage worries. We don’t have answers to scary things so it is best to assure that God is in control and that He loves us, even when the world makes us think differently.

Be present to ask questions and listen for both the spoken and unspoken answer. Often children need us to pose questions that start with feelings.

“I wonder if you are feeling afraid?”

“Does the world seem confusing now?”

“Are you worrying about something big or maybe something little?”

And when your child is ready, help him or her with an action plan. Make a list of what can be done. Are there people to comfort? Are there little changes to be made? Are there comforting rituals that can remind your child of love and protection?

You may not feel like an expert, but God has given you expertise regarding your child. He will bless you with what you need, when you need it.

Then you shall call, and the LORD will answer; you shall cry, and He will say, ‘Here I am.’ Isaiah 58:9