We may think parenting is about the right answer or
the correct response to each situation. In a real world, the correct response
is not easy to determine. Research shows us that good parenting is really about
balance. We want high expectations for our children because we know this builds
confidence. We also want to show our children high levels of responsiveness, so
they know they are not alone in the world.
One of the best ways I have found to do this is to
use the grace sandwich in discipline or correction situations. The grace
sandwich allows you to address the behavior in a spirit of gentleness.
The first piece of bread in the sandwich is grace.
Before you apply correction, remind your child you are doing this out of love.
Believe it or not, this is an easy thing for a child to forget and that
reminder puts the child in a different, less defensive mood.
Next apply the meat of the sandwich which is the
correction and appropriate discipline.
Finally, don’t forget the last piece of grace bread. Finish
the discipline session with forgiveness and a reminder that God sends His
Spirit to help us learn and grow.
When you wrap your correction in love you are
teaching your child a vital faith lesson:
For
the whole law is fulfilled in one word: “You shall love your neighbor as
yourself.” Galatians 5: 14
