There are several good things
about this note:
1. This angry child is
writing a note instead of screaming. This
behavior shows excellent self-regulation. He or she has learned how to
handle anger and to communicate in a safe and effective way.
2. This child is giving
himself or herself a time-out. My guess is that the ban on communication did
not last for two days - all day. The two-day ban tells more about the intensity
of the anger than the child's need for alone time.
3. The child expresses anger
but does not attempt to manipulate. Children
need to learn to deal with anger and with parent decisions that can
cause anger. Children need to know that they are
loved even when they hear the word "no."
4. It demonstrates that this
child understands, knows, and receives unconditional love. This child knows
that love is stronger than anger - even a really
big anger.
5. This child has learned
empathy. He or she can express anger, but still remember to express love
because that is what has been experienced
in the past.
Never underestimate the power
of unconditional love!
So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him. (I John 4:16, ESV)